Sunday, July 6, 2008

Have you ever felt like you weren't important?

So, today was supposed to be a birthday party for my Granddad and two daughter-in-laws of his new wife. Well, my sister, Kandi, and I decided to go to Church with my dad before we went to the party. Karen, my step-mom, had told us that Virginia, the new wife, had decided to make a cake for Kandi and me as well since our birthdays are this month. Well, she had to call my dad to see how old we were going to be turning. When we got to their house, Virginia brought out the cake and it read: Happy Birthday Kandi 29 and Kasie 27. Well, that would be all well and good except for the fact that I will be turning 26, not 27. I wasn't going to say anything about it because at least she made the effort and made us a cake. Then Virginia asked if the numbers were right. I told her I ws 26, not 27. She said it was right then. I said, "No, I'm 25 now, I will be 26 on my birthday." So, my Dad decided I was wrong as well. He said, "Isn't that right? She was born in 1979 and you in 1981?" I had to inform him that he didn't even know when his own daughter's birthday was. And instead of no one saying anything, when they brought the cakes out for everyone to eat, Virginia decided to take a spoon and "fix" the cake to kind of say 26. And then one of the daughter's-in-law made the comment that hers was wrong too. She wouldn't be 57 for another two weeks. I informed her that I wouldn't be 27 for another year and 3 weeks. She just looked at me.

So the moral of the story is...If you don't know when your kids birthdays are, you shouldn't tell other people how old they are. It makes them feel like they aren't very important in your life. I mean, I wouldn't expect anything different, but it still hurts. He IS the same Dad that called my sister on the 22nd to wish her a Happy Birthday but she wasn't home so he talked to me for about 2 minutes. There was no mention of my birthday. (Kandi's b-day is 7/21 and mine is 7/23) I just thought he was going to call back on my birthday and wish me a Happy day. Nope. He didn't. It's ok though. No hard feelings. I can forgive, but I don't forget.

Happy Birthday to me!!!!!

1 comment:

Cynthia L. H. said...

Oops. Some people are definitely goobers. I'm sorry that this hurt you. I guess that what I would try to tell one of my daughters would be to focus on the good....and as my dad would say, "let the other roll right off your back like water off a duck's back..." He told me that just this Saturday, as a matter of fact!
And you ARE important! :^)